Dear Living Room Yogis,
The New Year is my holiday. I am just a sucker for letting go of what has bogged me down and embracing new beginnings. As I look back over the year I realize that my life was more settled and more regular than it has been in many years. Though I definitely had goals that I set and reached I did not experience the struggle of always trying to get somewhere other than where I was – both literally and figuratively. Having one “job job” (instead of three) in addition to the studio has been a blessing in that it allowed some energy for pursuing other interests – like developing online courses and going on vacation without missing a paycheck. Of course I still only have one day off a week and that is not ideal but it is allowing me to catch up financially, and that is fine for now.
One thing that happened this year is Karen Seidler’s retirement. Karen thank you for your service to LRY all these years. I know it was not easy chasing me down and sitting on me to make me do the things I needed to do for the admin aspect of the business (ok I am kidding about the sitting on me part), and I really appreciate you hanging in there with me, especially during some pretty difficult transitions in my life. Having your duties put back on my plate has forced me into a new state of awareness, responsibility, and accountability that has been good for me and good for LRY… which brings to my list of what I learned in 2018.
- The body loves regularity and structure. I still don’t get enough rest or enough exercise as I focus on meeting certain goals. But the regularity of my schedule calms my nervous system and makes my life doable.
- I have to have alone time and I sacrifice sleep by getting up at 5am to get it. It is imperative for a complicated, deep, emotional, introverted overthinker like me to restore, recover, and process.
- Forced change can be good. Even though regularity is good, it is easy to get stuck in it. Forced change wakes you up and lets you know what you’re made of. Karen’s retirement made me work my brain in a different way and find creative solutions.
- Knowledge is power. Uncertainty is draining and anxiety producing. Knowing all the aspects of your situation that you can know is calming and allows you to make a game plan. Thou shalt take thy head out of the sand.
- Keep the main thing the main thing. I am borrowing this from Lou Valeriano, Joanne Valeriano Marcet’s father and Rosemarie’s husband. By the time I met him he was in the late stages of dementia but his wisdom was passed on to me through his family and this statement has stuck with me. Keep your focus on the task in front of you and don’t get sidetracked. Thanks Lou! You were ahead of your time and you live on in your family.
- Time, maturity, and perspective make you value things differently. The other day, a fellow therapist told me that unlike in the beginning of his career he feels like the profession and how it is delivered now is bruising his soul. I really felt for him because that is how I felt in the beginning of my career. I was agitated by everything in the traditional healthcare setting. I wanted it to be different – more – than what it was. Maybe it is because I have my private work that gives me more opportunity for holistic approaches, but I don’t get agitated about that anymore. I am grateful to be able to give all I can within the parameters available and to get paid decently for doing it. This is not to diminish my co-worker’s experience – it just helped me clarify mine.
- My “main things” in this life are to love, to be present, and to be aware. When I keep these main things the main thing, I can be free of judging and others can be free of being judged, discontent falls away, and amazing encounters happen. (Influences here are The Tibetan Book of Living and Dying, Eckhart Tolle’s A New Earth: Discovering Your Life’s Purpose and The Power of Now, and Jesus.)
- Be single-minded. This is one of my biggest challenges as I have so much interest in doing so many things. But as I prepare my own vision board this year I am focusing on one primary goal for the first part of the year and another in the latter part of the year. In fact, I am doing a separate vision board for each one. Usually I have “forty-leven” goals and I struggle with my divided mind to meet them. But this year it is ONE AT A TIME. I am already feeling the power of that.
- I cannot control others’ perceptions of me or make them happy. Continuing to practice The Four Agreements: Always do my best, Take Nothing Personally, Make no Assumptions, and be Impeccable with my Word, keeping the main things the main things – Love, Presence, Awareness, AND remembering that I am allowed to be human really sum up for me what I need to do. Others have to find their own way and their opinion of me is none of my business.
- Be unapologetically, quintessentially, unselfconsciously, unequivocally myself.
- Laugh. Laugh with friends, laugh with co-workers, laugh with clients, laugh with yoga students, laugh with your family. The end.
Happy New Year and much love to you all! You have no idea how much I love and appreciate each and every one of you (well I hope you do actually).